213/313 Narcissists in Relationship

Wendy BeharyWendy Behary • Friday All Day
Narcissists are notoriously difficult to work with. They can be arrogant, condescending, lacking in empathy, and so self-absorbed they seem incapable of forming genuine relationships with anyone, including therapists. So how can we summon compassion for narcissists and engage them in treatment? Since being “nice” is usually ineffective with such clients, this session will present a different method: empathic confrontation. You’ll learn strategies for being direct with these clients and for becoming more aware of and managing the vulnerabilities or roiling emotions they can trigger in you. We’ll practice techniques that will help you gain and retain leverage, avoid power struggles, and maintain compassion in ways that will also help the client begin to understand and change negative behavior patterns. This integrated approach incorporates cognitive restructuring, attachment, and re-parenting work, along with behavioral-skills training and experiential techniques. (This session will continue with Workshop 313.)

Wendy Behary, L.C.S.W., the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and of The New Jersey Institute for Schema Therapy, is president of the International Society of Schema Therapy. She’s the author of Disarming the Narcissist.

Wendy Behary With 25 years post-graduate training and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The New Jersey Institute for Schema Therapy. She has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy is also on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York, where she has trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. She is a founding fellow of The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Dr. Aaron T. Beck). Wendy is also the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST).


Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on schema therapy and cognitive therapy. She is the author of (New Harbinger Publications – 1st and 2nd edition): Disarming the Narcissist…Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed“. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is also the lead chapter author on the subject of “schema therapy for narcissism” (Wiley and APA Press, 2011, 2012, 2013).


Wendy Behary has lectured both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on the subject of narcissism, relationships, and how to deal with difficult people. Her work with industry has included speaking engagements focused on interpersonal conflict resolution.

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Wendy’s private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems. She is also an expert in coaching individuals in interviewing, public speaking, and interpersonal skills enhancement.


Call Wendy at (973) 218-1776, x807 or e-mail wendy.behary@gmail.com.

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