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  • -0.1 NP0020 Men in Therapy: What Clinicians Need to KnowMen and Intimacy: A Relational Approach with Patrick Dougherty 07.03.2012 13:12
    Thank you so much! Thank you for being willing to be influenced by a strong woman, for talking about a body centered approach with men, for naming the importance of authentic relationship and coherence. I appreciate so much that you hold that men should not be treated with kid gloves and believe that they are capable of deep relational work.

    One word of caution. As a woman in relationship with a man and a female therapist, beware the woman who believes she is "ahead" of her partner in emotional work. I have been seduced by this "apparent" imbalance to the detriment of the couples work. Thank you again!
  • 0 P004 New Perspectives on Practice: The Great Attachment DebateP004, Attachment, Session 4, David Schnarch 04.26.2011 13:29

    I am a trainer of a body of work called Internal Family System Therapy and have developed a program for the application of this model to Couples Therapy. Although I do not agree with all you have to say, I appreciate the call to a model of differentiation for couples. I appreciate your comments at the end of the seminar that it is in the diffentiation process that Couples can find their way back to open- hearted interactions (re-attachment as it were). In IFS therapy we also view the human system as whole and resilient and the Self accessible. Our approach is quite different from yours but I am resonating with the need for adults to learn to trust themselves before working on making their partners trustworthy. I think you are not as tough as you say you are. Being able to "see" people's dilemmas and create an environment where they feel it will serve them to work with you indicates you ability to resonate, empathize, acknowledge and offer hope. Interpersonal neurobiology is in itself safety creating and brain changing.

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