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  • 0 NP0016 The Great Attachment DebateNP0016, Attachment, Session 4, David Schnarch 04.15.2012 12:23
    Initially I had a difficult time buying into Dr. Schnarch's point of view, as I do believe that most parents do the best they can. As a parent who has made a lot of mistakes, I didn't make those mistakes with the intent of inflicting emotional wounds on my child. The view of human nature that we are by definition all manipulative, self-serving, and cruel, destructive beings is one that I do not agree with. If I believed that, I wouldn't be able to provide therapy to people. For me, I need to believe that people are basically good and want to do good in the world. This being said, as the interview continued I began to see nuggets that I could relate to and value. I think that when you talk about the model in an abstract way it is difficult to relate to, but when specific case examples are discussed one begins to see the value in not accepting a client's reality, but encouraging them to consider a different one. It reminded me a bit of transactional analysis in terms of the game playing and self serving motives that we are perhaps not consciously aware of but which nonetheless we participate in. I admire Schnarch's willingness to confront both his clients and the status quo in therapy circles in search of a deeper understanding and an activation of our internal resources to promote change.
  • 0 NP0016 The Great Attachment DebateNP0016, Attachment, Session 2, Jerome Kagan 03.31.2012 14:55
    I found the discussion of temperment's limiting but not defining effects very interesting. There's so much pressure in today's world to be "culturally sensitive", and this webinar gave me new insights into why this is such a relevant directive, but also such a difficult one to implement. Is society's quest for "equality" a losing battle? Can a middle class white female therapist ever really understand the inner struggles and intenalized truths and values of a young black male who grew up in an impoverished inner city? By the same token, can a therapist assume that just because their client "looks like" them that their self view and/or their view of the world that they have the same internalized value system? I also really appreciated the emphasis on a therapist's sensitivity to the client's interpretation of their problem (and the needed solution) in predicting the outcome of therapy. It is a good reminder to not become too invested in your own theories and outcomes when working with clients. Thanks for a great webinar!

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