NP0023 The Emotion Revolution: Harnessing Mind, Body and Soul in the Consulting Room

This blog focuses on discussion regarding the course The Emotion Revolution: Harnessing Mind, Body and Soul in the Consulting Room.

When Your Client Cries with Jay Efran


The Emotion Revolution: NP0023 – Session 3

Discover how the latest findings on the psychobiology of crying can help you harness a client’s tears in session to engage with, understand, and regulate their emotions. Professor of psychology Jay Efran, who coauthored a compelling article on the topic in our May/June 2012 issue, discusses the practical do’s and don’ts of what to do when your client cries. Read the article here.

After you hear this presentation, please take a few minutes to comment about what you found most interesting or relevant. These comment boards will be a valuable way to share your thoughts, opinions, and questions throughout the series. If you ever have any technical questions, please feel free to contact support@psychotherapynetworker.org and our Support Team will help you.

08.08.2012   Posted In: NP0023 The Emotion Revolution: Harnessing Mind, Body and Soul in the Consulting Room   By Psychotherapy Networker
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  • 0 avatar Rosemary Cowan 08.13.2012 04:49
    Dear Jay and Rich, I have found this session extremely helpful not only with clients and with my family - one of whom is going through an especially stressful time - but also in just observing the reactions of the Olympians here in London. What I learned on Wednesday has helped me understand better what's going on: the tension, followed by the utter relief - and then the tears flow. It makes sense to me now, but here in the land of the 'stiff upper lip', there is some confusion. 'Why are they crying - they've won?!'
  • Not available avatar kim allouche 08.13.2012 09:24
    I have a client who cries loudly throughout most of our sessions; might the crying be a defense mechanism in this case? She seems to calm down only when I interrupt the crying. Also, when you descibed the mother of the bride, my eyes filled with tears; how is this recalibration? Thank you for a thought provoking session.
  • Not available avatar leticia 08.13.2012 22:09
    Dear Rich:
    As always thank you for bringing up to date themes. Hope to be listening and watching you interaction with so many interesting interviews.

    I would like to ask Dr. Efron , what happens in couples therapy when you get the sense that tears are manipulative from one member of the couple.
    • Not available avatar Jay Efran 09.19.2012 09:54
      I make the assumption that if the tears include actual "wetness," that they are genuine tears and not manipulative. This is different from whining, screaming, or tearing up in response to physical pain. Most people cannot create "wet tears" at will, just for manipulative purposes.
  • Not available avatar Jay Bishop III 08.14.2012 13:40
    Interesting session, a tad muddled here and there, not the same clarity or experiential oohs and aahs as with Joan last week. All in all, I'd say I remain with a slight sense of underdelivery. Did appreciate Jay's last insight, on the meaning of integration, widening the inner envelope to accommodate the whole of our life experience.
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