NP0019 Parenting Skills: All You Need to Help Families Today

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Reclaiming Parental Authority with Ron Taffel


Parenting Skills: Session 1 – NP0019

Today’s culture, new technologies, rough economy, and many other factors undermine the foundations of parental authority. Many parents feel confused and blamed. In this series, “Parenting Skills: All You Need to Help Family Today,” we’ll explore practical tools that therapists can use in dealing with the challenges of raising kids today.

In this first session with Ron Taffel, you’ll gain a broader perspective on the social context of parent-child relationships today. He’ll explain how clinicians can help parents reassert their authority by creating effective “I mean it” moments with their kids and teens and other practical strategies for parents.

After each session is over, please take a few minutes to engage in the Comment Boards. Feel free to comment about what you felt was most interesting about the session, to ask any questions you may have of the presenter or your colleagues, or to share any relevant experiences. If you ever have any technical questions, please feel free to email support@psychotherapynetworker.org and our Support Team will help you.

05.02.2012   Posted In: NP0019 Parenting Skills: All You Need to Help Families Today   By Psychotherapy Networker
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  • Not available avatar Mary Dougherty-Hunt 05.02.2012 13:11
    Very engaging coversation with many take aways! Will use concepts to help develop support literature and services for EAP related work. Thank you!
    • Not available avatar Ron Taffel 05.12.2012 08:57
      Thank you Mary - Any spcific areas of the literature you might want me to suggest? Ron Taffel
  • 0 avatar Chris Blake 05.02.2012 15:11
    Absolutely. I think perhaps we should remind ourselves that we're perhaps talking about a certain group of kids/parents and it is questionable that they are black/hispanic or from some other sub culture. This is great stuff relating to suburban/urban upwardly mobile (one prays) family groups. Being from one myself, I am grateful. But there sure are others that face issues of power and abuse and poverty/want which present definitely different dynamics between children and their parents.

    I would only add that the Hyde School in Bath, ME operates its entire program around authentic parental values (principles) as the core of reclaiming or creating effective parental authority. I would recommend any books by Joe Gault as reflecting a schools take on what Dr.. Taffel described so well in his own experience. Well worth the time, Guys. Thank you so much.
    • Not available avatar Ron Taffel 05.12.2012 09:02
      Chris - I understand how it sounds lke this is strictly from upward bound families, but as I have presented to groups all over the country, from varying economic conditions, the concerns and challenges parents and kids face are remarkably similar. Many of the ideas I present first began when I worked with the poorest of families in Brooklyn. And the concerns about losing authority are almost universal for parents everywhere. If you have any further questions, feel free to get in touch with me. Ron
  • 0 avatar David Brown 05.04.2012 14:34
    The audio MP3 file is not the same as the video web session 1 with Ron Taffel. The video deals with parental authority, while the audio MP3 file deals with bullying. Please adjust. Thank you.
    • 0 avatar Emily Drzymala 05.05.2012 20:52
      Did you get a reply on this, David?
    • Not available avatar Ron Taffel 05.12.2012 09:04
      Don't know about this - thanks for pointing out to Networker. Ron
  • 0 avatar Jeannie Latimer 05.04.2012 19:44
    Thanks so much for making this available to us.
    • Not available avatar Ron Taffel 05.12.2012 09:14
      Jeannie - Thank you from myself and the Networker for asking me to participate. I appreciate your taking the time to write. Ron
  • 0 avatar Emily Drzymala 05.05.2012 20:52
    Ditto on David Brown's comment on the MP3. Is it in error? I assumed that it would be an audio recording of the video stream - ??????
  • 0 avatar Psychotherapy Networker 05.07.2012 11:00
    Hi everyone,
    Ron Taffel's audio MP3 is now posted on the fulfillment page. Thank you to everyone who spoke up to let us know the error. We apologize for the inconvenience.
    As a reminder, to access the fulfillment page, log in with your username and password, hover (not click) your mouse over the Your Purchased Items tab, and click on the parenting series.
    The Networker Team
  • Not available avatar beth 05.08.2012 10:24
    Ron, thanks for this interesting talk. can you speak more about helping parents "release fear?" how do you help parents do this, once they understand the fear and its roots? thanks.
    • Not available avatar Ron Taffel 05.12.2012 09:24
      Beth - A far more complex issue than I can handle in this format. Perhaps there will be another chance to focus more fully on several of the specific clinical techniques I brought up in this conversation. I will speak to the Networker about that. Thanks for your question and response. Ron
  • Not available avatar M 05.08.2012 17:08
    Thanks so much both of you for a helpful update (watched last night) on what's going on with our young people and their
    overwhelmed/intimidated parents.
    I felt I had to contact you re: an experience of synchronicity this morning. I was dial hopping on the radio to find music to accompany my exercise. I stumbled upon "Young and Wild and Free" and the relevance to your talk was remarkable. Basically glorifying and normalizing getting drunk, smoking weed, missing school etc etc. .....
    I quickly checked 'synchronicity' on Google and found a quote from Carroll's Alice in Wonderland that among other things spoke of "living backwards" and it struck me that it's a good metaphor for the way that kids seem to be in control of their parents. Yes, the pendulum swung the other way and as usual has gone a bit too far. I grew up in the UK, experiencing some vestigial post-Victorian "discipline" which I found excessive, however I did respect other people (especially those who were reasonable, respectful and compassionate.)
    I'd love to collaborate in an ongoing community dialog re: ways of supporting the best in our young people (including those "under-used frontal lobes".) I love the concepts of community of care/community building.
    I look forward to reading more....
    Thanks again,
    Mary (CA Therapist)
    • Not available avatar Ron Taffel 05.12.2012 09:32
      Mary - I appreciate your comments which certainly resonate with my experience and what I begin to describe in the conversation with Rich Simon. In fact, this is one of the central tenets of my latest book Childhood Unbound: Authoritative Parenting for the 21st Century. Your words closely parallel those of parents everywhere. The clinical interventions I began to outline in the discussion as well as creating dialogue between the adults of the community are a way that therapists can make a real difference - help parents feel less vulnerable and overwhelmed. Thanks again, Ron
  • -0.1 avatar Matthew Gittleman 05.22.2012 15:53
    Hi Ron: I'm re-visiting your talk from May 2nd, as it has been the most useful, and even transformational, talk so far in this series. The notion that rules = values is so vital to convey to parents, and I was looking for a way to synthesize my efforts to link the parents' morals and values to their children. It's critical for kids to hear this from their parents because I think this shapes the way these kids grow into adulthood. A corollary to this is that children will reflect back to parents their interpretation of the messages they received from mom and dad in one of two ways: Either good values, integrity, kindness, and empathy for mom and dad and others, or poor moral values, lack of integrity, and growing up to be like Mitch McConnell, senator from Kentucky, who would yell at any kid to "get the hell off my lawn!"
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