When Is Enough Enough?
We’ve all encountered couples for whom therapy is a last ditch attempt before calling it quits. But how do we, as therapists, decide whether to throw our weight behind the relationship or let it end? This session explores the impact our own values, childhood experiences, and old family roles have on how we help couples answer this momentous question. Through case histories and discussion, you’ll learn how to think about ways to proceed in the face of challenges such as when:
- One partner is ambivalent about the relationship and clearly disengaged from therapy
- Your own personal deal breakers, such as physical or psychological abuse, are part of the couple’s history
- Addiction issues cloud the viability of the relationship’s future
- The couple’s on the brink after betrayal or infidelity
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Terry Real, LICSW, is the author of the bestseller I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression and has been featured on numerous national news programs. He’s been in private practice for 30 years and is the founder of The Relational Life Institute, where he teaches therapist trainings and workshops for couples.
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What to Do When One Partner Won’t Give Up the Affair
TERRY REAL & MICHELE WEINER-DAVIS
Few situations feel as high stakes as healing infidelity—especially if the unfaithful partner is unremorseful or doesn’t want to give up the affair. Should we keep confidences? Should we insist on monogamy from this point forward? Transparency? What about our own feelings and convictions? Should we try to be neutral—is that even possible? How supportive should we be? Or how challenging? In this clinical showcase, two therapists will show videos of cases demonstrating two contrasting approaches to the use of confrontation of the betraying spouse and determining how—and how not—to set therapeutic boundaries. You’ll explore how to:
- Handle secrets and issues of confidentiality without feeling trapped or drawn into power struggles
- Navigate the challenge of helping couples rebuild trust as well as the therapist’s role in the couple’s decision whether or not to stay together
- Use direct and indirect methods of confrontation at key junctures to encourage clients’ accountability and move the therapy process forward
Terry Real, LICSW, is the author of the bestseller I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression and has been featured on numerous national news programs. He’s been in private practice for 30 years and is the founder of The Relational Life Institute.
Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW, LCSW, is the director of the Divorce Busting Center in Colorado and author of several bestselling books, including The Sex-Starved Marriage and Divorce Busting.
* Clinical Showcases highlight the different ways well-known innovators approach common clinical problems. Master therapists will show video clips of their work and then engage in a probing exploration of their moment-to-moment therapeutic decision-making. The goal is to open up possibilities for dialogue, debate, and fresh perspectives not usually featured within more standard workshop formats.
My Most Unforgettable Session: An Evening of Storytelling
Courtney Armstrong, Mary Jo Barrett, Margaret Nichols, Terry Real, Hedy Schleifer, Ron Taffel
Join six Master Therapists as they engage in the art of storytelling and
invite you into an evening of deep listening and authentic experience.
As in the acclaimed first-person storytelling program The Moth, each
therapist will recount a deeply felt, real-life experience that will inspire,
provoke, and enchant. The more you listen, the more you’ll feel like
you’re huddled around a campfire exchanging stories and sharing insights in an
experience of communal discovery.
Each therapist will reveal a tale from the heart about a session, a client, or a
therapeutic moment that stands out from all the others because it was . . . the most
meaningful? Surprising? Humbling? Explosive? Hilarious? Come and find out!
Whether told from the point of view of the therapist, client, or supervisor,
the story will be a no-holds barred revelation ranging the gamut of emotions of
empathy, fear, suffering, celebration, pain, intimacy, embarrassment, and wonder.
You’ll leave with a deepened sense of what it means at the core to be a therapist.