Tammy Nelson

123 – Expanding Your Sexual Comfort Zone

Getting Beyond Myths and Stereotypes
TAMMY NELSON

Working with sexual issues in therapy and the often edgy erotic behavior people engage in can challenges a therapist’s own values and deeply held beliefs about sex and relationships. As an introduction to sex therapy, this workshop will include videos, live demonstrations, and small-group discussion around sexual practice, providing essential training to help therapists face their own preconceived notions and countertransference issues around eroticism and intimacy. In this workshop, you’ll:

• Work through your own sex-related stereotypes, resistance, guilt, and shame to create a safe, comfortable, and nonjudgmental environment for clients
• Learn about alternative sexual practices, open monogamy, fetishes, BDSM, paraphilias, cross-dressing, and a range of other behaviors
• Process responses and any vicarious trauma that may be triggered by issues around pornography, sexual exploitation, and other erotic practices
• Expand your ability to communicate about sexual issues in the consulting room

Tammy Nelson, PhD, is a board-certified sexologist, certified Imago therapist, licensed professional counselor, and author of Getting the Sex You Want and The New Monogamy.

Posted in Anxiety, Depression and Trauma, Couples, Kids, and Families, Personal and Professional Development, Thursday Pre-Conference Clinical: 9:30 A.M. – NOON & 1 P.M. – 4 P.M., Thursday: 9:30 a.m. - Noon & 1 p.m. - 4 p.m., workshops | Tagged , , , ,

421 – The Rules of the New Monogamy

The Future of Committed Relationships
TAMMY NELSON

Committed intimate partnerships as we’ve known them are shifting. Couples today are negotiating their monogamy in new and creative ways involving different types of sexual arrangements, including open marriage, polyamory, group marriages, transgender relationships, and a variety of intentional partnerships. As therapists, we need to understand this new trend, the challenges they bring, and the skills required of us to remain open and aware of our own triggers. In this workshop, you’ll learn to:

  • Explore how the concepts of individuation and flexibility are driving many non-traditional arrangements
  • Help clients develop a code of honor that will define their monogamy as one of integrity and honesty, even if it involves a departure from traditional sexual fidelity
  • Coach clients on how to negotiate prenuptial and postnuptial monogamy arrangements and how to renegotiate a new one after infidelity
  • Understand why open marriages often can fail—and how couples can recover

Tammy Nelson, PhD, is a board-certified sexologist, certified Imago therapist, licensed professional counselor, and author of Getting the Sex You Want and The New Monogamy.

Posted in Couples, Kids, and Families, Saturday Morning: 11 A.M. – 1 P.M., workshops | Tagged , ,

522 – The Intentional Divorce

Helping Couples Separate with Dignity
TAMMY NELSON

Divorce with dignity may sound like an oxymoron, but it’s possible. This workshop introduces an approach designed to teach partners to end their marriage with a sense of integrity and respect for another, rather than continuing conflict and bitterness. Learn to help clients reframe the “end” of the marriage as a “completion” rather than a “failure.” You’ll learn specific strategies to guide both partners through the three distinct phases of the Intentional Divorce:

  • Crisis Phase — Help both partners determine if they’re ready for divorce and consider the legal, financial, and emotional consequences of adversarial litigation vs intentional negotiation
  • Insight Phase — Allow each spouse to separate psychologically while mourning the loss of the marriage and prepare for their new roles with each other
  • Vision Phase — Foster hope for the future by creating a divorce ritual to help them honor the marriage and let it go

Tammy Nelson, PhD, is a board-certified sexologist, certified Imago therapist, licensed professional counselor, and author of Getting the Sex You Want and The New Monogamy.

Posted in Couples, Kids, and Families, Saturday Afternoon: 3 P.M. – 5 P.M., workshops | Tagged , , , ,