How to Access Core Values
Outrage at a video of NFL running back Ray Rice punching his fiancée unconscious brought massive media attention to the problem of domestic violence. But the media focus on the importance of abusers being punished ignored the question of how to actually help them change their behavior. This workshop takes the position that abusers are most likely to change when they access their own deeper values concerning the kind of partner or parent they want to be. It will demonstrate an approach that emphasizes helping men practice alternative ways to express resentment and find more prosocial ways to experience themselves as powerful in their families. You’ll explore how to:
- Guide men to regularly practice incompatible response strategies as an alternative to abusing those around them
- Help men ally with the person they want to be and learn to feel compassion for themselves
- Help men use their own deepest values as a motivation for change
Steven Stosny, PhD, is the director of Compassion Power. He’s the author of Love without Hurt and coauthor of How to Improve Your Marriage without Talking about It. His most recent book is Living and Loving after Betrayal.
Posted in Couples, Kids, and Families, Friday Afternoon: 3 P.M. – 5 P.M., Personal and Professional Development, workshops
Tagged Adolescents, Challenging Clients and Treatment Populations, Couples, Families, Kids, Steven Stosny
Making Therapy Stick
As therapists, we’re often so focused on helping our clients make significant progress during therapy that we pay less attention to helping them maintain these gains after therapy ends. But research shows that in the throes of life stresses, clients often revert to the negative habits that brought them to therapy in the first place, rather than use their newly learned insights and coping strategies. In this workshop, we’ll focus on how to make positive change stick in the long run by exploring:
- The principles of relapse prevention and how to help clients retrain their brains to default to new, positive habits that will override older negative habits
- How take-home strategies—like sending clients monthly checklists—can help them stay on track with their therapeutic goals
- How to help clients become sensitive to their personal triggers and warning signals to stop regression in its tracks
Steven Stosny, PhD, is the director of Compassion Power. He’s the author of Love without Hurt and the coauthor of How to Improve Your Marriage without Talking about It. His most recent book is Living and Loving after Betrayal: How to Heal from Emotional Abuse, Deceit, Infidelity, & Chronic Resentment.