Sex and Sexuality

123 – Expanding Your Sexual Comfort Zone

Getting Beyond Myths and Stereotypes
TAMMY NELSON

Working with sexual issues in therapy and the often edgy erotic behavior people engage in can challenges a therapist’s own values and deeply held beliefs about sex and relationships. As an introduction to sex therapy, this workshop will include videos, live demonstrations, and small-group discussion around sexual practice, providing essential training to help therapists face their own preconceived notions and countertransference issues around eroticism and intimacy. In this workshop, you’ll:

• Work through your own sex-related stereotypes, resistance, guilt, and shame to create a safe, comfortable, and nonjudgmental environment for clients
• Learn about alternative sexual practices, open monogamy, fetishes, BDSM, paraphilias, cross-dressing, and a range of other behaviors
• Process responses and any vicarious trauma that may be triggered by issues around pornography, sexual exploitation, and other erotic practices
• Expand your ability to communicate about sexual issues in the consulting room

Tammy Nelson, PhD, is a board-certified sexologist, certified Imago therapist, licensed professional counselor, and author of Getting the Sex You Want and The New Monogamy.

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201/301 – To Stay Or Go?

Working with the Mixed Agenda Couple
WILLIAM DOHERTY

It’s not easy when a couple enters treatment unsure about whether to dissolve a marriage or try to save it—especially when each partner leans in a different direction. These “mixed agenda” couples present challenges for even the most skilled couples therapist, particularly since successful couples therapy usually depends on both partners being at least nominally invested in working on the relationship. This workshop will demonstrate an approach called Discernment Counseling that helps partners develop clarity and confidence about whether to divorce or work on their relationship in therapy. You’ll discover how to:

  • Identify mixed agenda couples and avoid common mistakes in treatment, such as siding with the distancer or holding back hope because one spouse is not “in”
  • Help both parties own their contributions to the marital problems and weigh the pros and cons of exiting the marriage or trying couples therapy
  • Develop a detailed protocol of joint and separate conversations with spouses to clarify each partner’s goals and focus on what they can learn from the crisis of divorce

Continued with workshop 301.

William Doherty, PhD, is a professor and director of the Minnesota Couples on the Brink Project at the University of Minnesota. His books include Take Back Your Marriage, Take Back Your Kids and Medical Family Therapy with Susan McDaniel and Jeri Hepworth.

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207/307 – Couples on the Brink

When Is Enough Enough?
TERRY REAL

We’ve all encountered couples for whom therapy is a last ditch attempt before calling it quits. But how do we, as therapists, decide whether to throw our weight behind the relationship or let it end? This session explores the impact our own values, childhood experiences, and old family roles have on how we help couples answer this momentous question. Through case histories and discussion, you’ll learn how to think about ways to proceed in the face of challenges such as when:

  • One partner is ambivalent about the relationship and clearly disengaged from therapy
  • Your own personal deal breakers, such as physical or psychological abuse, are part of the couple’s history
  • Addiction issues cloud the viability of the relationship’s future
  • The couple’s on the brink after betrayal or infidelity

Continued with workshop 307.

Terry Real, LICSW, is the author of the bestseller I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression and has been featured on numerous national news programs. He’s been in private practice for 30 years and is the founder of The Relational Life Institute, where he teaches therapist trainings and workshops for couples.

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209/309 – Creating a New Reality in Couples Therapy

Breaking Free of Weekly Sessions
HEDY SCHLEIFER

Everything we’re learning about the brain and the challenge of transforming deeply engrained emotional patterns tells us that the weekly appointment approach of traditional therapy is a limiting, highly flawed format. To help couples create new realities and move into a fuller experience of intimate connectedness, we need to provide opportunities for more immersive learning that fully engages the mind, body, and spirit of both partners. This workshop presents an intensive approach to helping couples transform their relationship. You’ll learn:

  • A step-by-step, experiential, multiday format that can provide a powerful boost to once-a-week therapy for guiding couples to explore a new style of connection and intimacy
  • How to expand mutual empathy by teaching partners how to “visit” each other’s emotional neighborhoods and better understand even the most painful places in their psyches
  • Strategies for guiding each partner to meet in a “main square” that they can mutually inhabit in emotional alignment with each other

Continued with workshop 309.

Hedy Schleifer, MA, LMHC, an internationally known couples therapist and clinical trainer, is the founder of the Tikkun Learning Center and the originator of Encounter-centered Couples Therapy (EcCT).

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214/314 – From Dysfunction to Erotic Discovery

Transforming the Sexual Narrative
SUZANNE IASENZA

When couples come to therapy with problems involving desire, arousal, and orgasm, therapists often fall into the trap of thinking of them as somehow broken and in need of fixing. Instead, this workshop will offer an approach that guides couples from a state of disconnection to becoming a co-creative sexual discovery team exploring their own idiosyncratic pathway to pleasure. It will offer a three-part therapeutic process to help couples find alternatives to rigid scripts about what fulfilling sexuality is supposed to be like. You’ll learn how to:

  • Conduct a detailed sexual history for partners to help them understand their current sexual narratives and how to create more liberating stories
  • Empower both partners to make explicit their “menus” for preferred sexual activities as a way of expanding their repertoire for more genuine erotic satisfaction
  • Help couples use sensate focus as a meditative tool to enhance their sexual development

Continued with workshop 314.

Suzanne Iasenza, PhD, is faculty at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis and the Postgraduate Program in Couples and Family Therapy of Adelphi University’s Derner Institute. She’s coeditor of Lesbians and Psychoanalysis: Revolutions in Theory and Practice and Lesbians, Feminism, and Psychoanalysis: The Second Wave.

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317 – The Myth of Sex Addiction

A Non-Pathologizing Approach to Out-of-Control Sexual Behavior
JOE KORT

Rather than providing a pathway to healing, the sex addiction model too often contributes to clients being sexually lost and at odds with their own nature. Therapists are left with both being unable to help clients with their continued out-of-control sexual behaviors and also with the consequences of being the recipient of a pathologizing label. This workshop will educate therapists on having a sexual health and strength-based dialogue with their clients as an alternative to the sex addiction model. We’ll focus on:

  • How to help clients develop a non-pathologizing understanding of their own individual sexuality and erotic identity
  • A comprehensive assessment and alternative treatment that emphasizes the nonsexual meanings of sexual behaviors and fantasies
  • Helping therapists explore their own countertransference with clients struggling with sexual behaviors the therapist experiences as problematic
  • Differentiating normative male sexuality from out-of-control sexual behaviors around the use of porn, fetishes, and sex with partners

Joe Kort, PhD, LMSW, is a certified sex therapist specializing in individual, couples, and group psychotherapy for gay and straight clients. He’s the author of Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi? A Guide for Women Concerned about Their Men.

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318 – Healing From Infidelity

A Toolkit for Helping Clients
MICHELE WEINER-DAVIS

If you work with couples, you’re probably no stranger to the clinical challenge of helping them heal from infidelity. Using vivid video examples, this workshop will provide a comprehensive roadmap to the complex, zigzag nature of the road to recovery, where progress can be marked by setbacks from week to week and even within the therapeutic hour. Whatever your therapy model, you’ll learn:

  • Whether and how to discuss the details of the betrayal
  • Whether to give an ultimatum to end the affair
  • How to help partners begin to rebuild trust and address questions about ongoing dishonesty
  • How to coach couples through a structured yet flexible healing process

Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW, LCSW, is the director of The Divorce Busting Center in Boulder, Colorado, and author of several bestselling books, including The Sex-Starved WifeThe Sex-Starved Marriage, and Divorce Busting.

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325 – Customizing Couples Therapy

Creating a Collaborative Couple Culture
DAVID TREADWAY

Couples in therapy often struggle with too many issues and too little time. This workshop offers an approach to help clients design their own treatment plan by determining whether to work on making changes in the here and now, focus on healing from past wounds, or explore their family of origin. Clients are empowered by choosing the focus of treatment while also learning how to tolerate working on only one aspect of their relationship at a time. We’ll explore how to:

  • Offer couples a variety of techniques to work on communication, behavior changes, problem-solving, or sexual intimacy they can apply to here-and-now issues at home
  • Provide an amends and forgiveness protocol for resolving past wounds like infidelity, substance abuse, betrayal, and more
  • Offer couples a family of origin perspective on how their dynamics were shaped by their childhood experiences

David Treadway, PhD, is a therapist and teacher who has been giving workshops and trainings for 40 years. He’s a long time contributor to Psychotherapy Networker magazine and the author of Home Before Dark: A Family Portrait of Cancer and Healing and three other books.

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327 – The Sexually Well-Informed Clinician

Going beyond Masters and Johnson
IAN KERNER

Did you know that the clitoris has 18 different parts that each play a role in sexual function? Or that men regularly experience three different types of erections? Knowledge is power, and nowhere is that truer than in the practice of sex therapy at a time when the science of sexuality is expanding exponentially. In this workshop, you’ll learn how the latest advances in sexual science can guide your treatment planning and extend your therapeutic effectiveness with issues of desire, arousal, and orgasm. We’ll focus on how to:

  • Connect with your clients around “hard to talk about” sex issues and build a therapeutic alliance that will encourage them to open up
  • Assess for a range of presenting issues, including low desire, mismatched libido, premature ejaculation, erectile disorder, delayed ejaculation, among others
  • Formulate a sex therapy case and develop a treatment plan that integrates insight-based psychotherapy, CBT, experiential exercises, and homework assignments
  • Understand the latest research on issues like spontaneous vs. responsive desire, arousal noncordance, dual control model, and sexual fluidity.

Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT, is a nationally recognized sex therapist and former writer of a weekly column for CNN Health. He’s also the author of She Comes First and Passionista.

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329 – From Tweens to Teens

An Innovative Approach to Preparing Girls for Adolescence
MARIA FLESHOOD

For decades, professionals have raised alarm about the difficulties girls face during their teen years. But we’re just starting to focus on the plight of tween girls, who face the same pressures and struggles, but at an earlier age. Immersed in an increasingly sexualized, cyber-saturated, and pressurized culture, they face challenges they aren’t physically or psychologically prepared to handle. This workshop offers an innovative approach based on our latest understanding of the neurological and psychological development of this age group. We’ll explore:

  • Alternatives to traditional talk approaches that don’t work
  • How to integrate rituals to deepen the clinical experience for the 21st century tween girl
  • Specific methods for facilitating parent/tween workshops that address the problems of girls and their families during these years

Maria Fleshood, LPC, is a psychotherapist and relationship specialist who works with tweens in clinical and group settings. Her book, From Tweens to Teens: Preparing Girls for Adolescence, is forthcoming.

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401/501 – Defining Moments in Couples Therapy

Neuroscience in the Consulting Room
SUSAN JOHNSON & JAMES COAN

Understanding the neurobiology of the brain not only explains how change happens, it also translates into more effective psychotherapy. In this dynamic demonstration-workshop, a psychotherapist and a neuroscientist offer a dialogue demonstrating the relevance of neuroscience to the process of repairing couples relationships. Together the presenters will review recorded couples therapy sessions to explore how neurobiological insights can inform and help shape a therapist’s moment-by-moment decision-making. You’ll learn how to:

  • “Read” clients’ facial and body language as outward signs of their brain function and emotional processing—and use this knowledge to select and time interventions more effectively
  • Make your interventions more efficient by tapping into the processes of relational regulation
  • Determine when clients can’t self-soothe or access higher brain functions and intervene accordingly

Continued with workshop 501.

Susan Johnson, EdD, the developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and Families, is the director of ICEEFT – The International Center for Excellence in EFT. She’s also the author of Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love and Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships.

James Coan, PhD, associate professor of clinical psychology at the University of Virginia, is the recipient of the Association for Psychological Science’s Spence Award for Transformative Early Career Contributions. He’s the author of The Handbook of Emotion Elicitation and Assessment.

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406/506 – Rewiring for Love

Increasing the Capacity for Connection
BRENT ATKINSON

An overwhelming body of research now suggests that clinicians rely too much on insight and understanding—and too little on repetitive practice—in promoting lasting change. In other words, weekly therapy sessions are no match for deeply conditioned and internalized emotional patterns. That’s why we need to help clients engage in daily practices that rewire their patterns of emotional response. In this workshop, you’ll learn how to help clients implement a reconditioning program that includes:

  • Accessing audio recordings and interactive, web-based tools that provide on-demand, personalized step-by-step guidance at the moments when they need it
  • Implementing practice protocols that deliberately restimulate and interrupt old emotional reactions through visualization, relaxation, and mental rehearsal
  • Engaging in “sustained inviting” practices that prime and strengthen the brain’s intimacy circuits, boosting naturally occurring feelings of empathy, playfulness, and desire
  • Using smartphone technology to create a system of reminders, protocols, and check-in procedures that enhance follow-through

Continued with workshop 506.

Brent Atkinson, PhD, is director of post-graduate training at the Couples Research Institute and professor emeritus at Northern Illinois University. He’s the author of Couples Therapy: Advances from Neurobiology and the Science of Intimate Relationships.

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