Michele Weiner-Davis

318 – Healing From Infidelity

A Toolkit for Helping Clients
MICHELE WEINER-DAVIS

If you work with couples, you’re probably no stranger to the clinical challenge of helping them heal from infidelity. Using vivid video examples, this workshop will provide a comprehensive roadmap to the complex, zigzag nature of the road to recovery, where progress can be marked by setbacks from week to week and even within the therapeutic hour. Whatever your therapy model, you’ll learn:

  • Whether and how to discuss the details of the betrayal
  • Whether to give an ultimatum to end the affair
  • How to help partners begin to rebuild trust and address questions about ongoing dishonesty
  • How to coach couples through a structured yet flexible healing process

Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW, LCSW, is the director of The Divorce Busting Center in Boulder, Colorado, and author of several bestselling books, including The Sex-Starved WifeThe Sex-Starved Marriage, and Divorce Busting.

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415 – Secrets and Responsibilities in Working with Infidelity (Clinical Showcase*)

What to Do When One Partner Won’t Give Up the Affair
TERRY REAL & MICHELE WEINER-DAVIS

Few situations feel as high stakes as healing infidelity—especially if the unfaithful partner is unremorseful or doesn’t want to give up the affair. Should we keep confidences? Should we insist on monogamy from this point forward? Transparency? What about our own feelings and convictions? Should we try to be neutral—is that even possible? How supportive should we be? Or how challenging? In this clinical showcase, two therapists will show videos of cases demonstrating two contrasting approaches to the use of confrontation of the betraying spouse and determining how—and how not—to set therapeutic boundaries. You’ll explore how to:

  • Handle secrets and issues of confidentiality without feeling trapped or drawn into power struggles
  • Navigate the challenge of helping couples rebuild trust as well as the therapist’s role in the couple’s decision whether or not to stay together
  • Use direct and indirect methods of confrontation at key junctures to encourage clients’ accountability and move the therapy process forward

Terry Real, LICSW, is the author of the bestseller I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression and has been featured on numerous national news programs. He’s been in private practice for 30 years and is the founder of The Relational Life Institute.

Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW, LCSW, is the director of the Divorce Busting Center in Colorado and author of several bestselling books, including The Sex-Starved Marriage and Divorce Busting.

* Clinical Showcases highlight the different ways well-known innovators approach common clinical problems. Master therapists will show video clips of their work and then engage in a probing exploration of their moment-to-moment therapeutic decision-making. The goal is to open up possibilities for dialogue, debate, and fresh perspectives not usually featured within more standard workshop formats.

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518 – The Sex-Starved Marriage

How to Revive Erotic Passion
MICHELE WEINER-DAVIS

One out of every three couples struggles with mismatched sexual desire—a formula for marital disaster. When one spouse is sexually dissatisfied and the other is oblivious, unconcerned, or uncaring, sex isn’t the only casualty; a sense of emotional connection can also disappear. This workshop presents a collaborative model for partners to work together to turn around the decline in their sex lives and reignite their emotional connection. Learn the specifics of this model, including how to:

  • Identify obstacles for each person to overcome or let go of, rather than blaming the low-interest sex partner alone
  • End the vicious cycle of refusing or always asking for sex which leads to more anger, more refusal, and less desire
  • Challenge the notion that sex is only about physical release and help clients understand how it’s also about connection
  • Coach partners on how to express “the 5 love languages”: physical touch, physical presence, words of affirmation, active service, and material gifts

Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW, LCSW, is the director of the Divorce Busting Center in Colorado and author of several bestselling books, including The Sex-Starved Marriage and Divorce Busting.

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