Men

123 – Expanding Your Sexual Comfort Zone

Getting Beyond Myths and Stereotypes
TAMMY NELSON

Working with sexual issues in therapy and the often edgy erotic behavior people engage in can challenges a therapist’s own values and deeply held beliefs about sex and relationships. As an introduction to sex therapy, this workshop will include videos, live demonstrations, and small-group discussion around sexual practice, providing essential training to help therapists face their own preconceived notions and countertransference issues around eroticism and intimacy. In this workshop, you’ll:

• Work through your own sex-related stereotypes, resistance, guilt, and shame to create a safe, comfortable, and nonjudgmental environment for clients
• Learn about alternative sexual practices, open monogamy, fetishes, BDSM, paraphilias, cross-dressing, and a range of other behaviors
• Process responses and any vicarious trauma that may be triggered by issues around pornography, sexual exploitation, and other erotic practices
• Expand your ability to communicate about sexual issues in the consulting room

Tammy Nelson, PhD, is a board-certified sexologist, certified Imago therapist, licensed professional counselor, and author of Getting the Sex You Want and The New Monogamy.

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202/302 – Engaging Men in Attachment-Focused Therapy

Exploring the Neurobiology of Sex Differences
DIANA FOSHA

Far fewer men than women are making use of psychotherapy, even though the rate of serious problems among men—such as alcoholism, ADHD, and suicidality—are far higher. One reason is that basic therapeutic practices are more congruent with women’s ways of engaging than with men’s. Making use of clinical videotapes, this workshop will show you how to work with men’s attachment trauma and intense emotions, and simultaneously undo the shame men often feel about being in therapy. You’ll discover how to:

  • Use gender-specific, attachment-based interventions to engage men more fully in the therapeutic process
  • Incorporate the practice of dyadic mindfulness to consolidate therapeutic gains, foster resilience, and deepen the experience of feeling seen, felt, and understood
  • Apply meta-therapeutic processing to help men explore their experience in the moment, especially when positive change occurs, in ways that can feel empowering

Continued with workshop 302.

Diana Fosha, PhD, is the developer of Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) and founder and director of the AEDP Institute. She’s the author of The Transforming Power of Affect and coeditor of The Healing Power of Emotion: Affective Neuroscience, Development & Clinical Practice, as well as many papers on healing transformational processes in experiential therapy and trauma treatment.

Posted in All Day, Couples, Kids, and Families, Friday Morning: 11 A.M. – 1 P.M, Friday: 11 a.m. – 1 p.m. & 3 p.m. – 5 p.m., Mind, Body, and Brain, Personal and Professional Development, workshops | Tagged , , , ,

207/307 – Couples on the Brink

When Is Enough Enough?
TERRY REAL

We’ve all encountered couples for whom therapy is a last ditch attempt before calling it quits. But how do we, as therapists, decide whether to throw our weight behind the relationship or let it end? This session explores the impact our own values, childhood experiences, and old family roles have on how we help couples answer this momentous question. Through case histories and discussion, you’ll learn how to think about ways to proceed in the face of challenges such as when:

  • One partner is ambivalent about the relationship and clearly disengaged from therapy
  • Your own personal deal breakers, such as physical or psychological abuse, are part of the couple’s history
  • Addiction issues cloud the viability of the relationship’s future
  • The couple’s on the brink after betrayal or infidelity

Continued with workshop 307.

Terry Real, LICSW, is the author of the bestseller I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression and has been featured on numerous national news programs. He’s been in private practice for 30 years and is the founder of The Relational Life Institute, where he teaches therapist trainings and workshops for couples.

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221 – Men and Integrity

Exploring a New Way to Engage Your Male Clients
PATRICK DOUGHERTY

Therapists often struggle to find leverage in working with defensive or avoidant male clients reluctant to engage emotionally with their partners or in the therapy room. But while they resist deeper psychological inquiry, evoking the masculine virtue of integrity can help men develop a new vision of who they wish to be. Then from this place of integrity, they can become more focused on taking responsibility for their own behavior and why they act and react the way they do. We’ll explore how to:

  • Help men internalize and organize behavior around the five attributes of integrity: honesty, vulnerability, guilt/remorse, listening, and direct expression of feelings
  • Learn techniques to get men to embrace their vulnerability and acknowledge difficult-to-address issues, such as sexual intimidation, threatening behavior or passive withdrawal
  • Practice drawing up specific action plans for men that will lead to their making amends to their partner while also restoring their own sense of dignity and integrity

Patrick Dougherty, MA, LP, a psychologist in private practice for more than 35 years and has been focusing on men’s issues for over three decades. He’s the author of Qigong in Psychotherapy: You Can Do So Much by Doing So Little and A Whole-Hearted Embrace: Finding Love at the Center of It All.

Posted in Couples, Kids, and Families, Friday Morning: 11 A.M. – 1 P.M, Personal and Professional Development, workshops | Tagged , , ,

317 – The Myth of Sex Addiction

A Non-Pathologizing Approach to Out-of-Control Sexual Behavior
JOE KORT

Rather than providing a pathway to healing, the sex addiction model too often contributes to clients being sexually lost and at odds with their own nature. Therapists are left with both being unable to help clients with their continued out-of-control sexual behaviors and also with the consequences of being the recipient of a pathologizing label. This workshop will educate therapists on having a sexual health and strength-based dialogue with their clients as an alternative to the sex addiction model. We’ll focus on:

  • How to help clients develop a non-pathologizing understanding of their own individual sexuality and erotic identity
  • A comprehensive assessment and alternative treatment that emphasizes the nonsexual meanings of sexual behaviors and fantasies
  • Helping therapists explore their own countertransference with clients struggling with sexual behaviors the therapist experiences as problematic
  • Differentiating normative male sexuality from out-of-control sexual behaviors around the use of porn, fetishes, and sex with partners

Joe Kort, PhD, LMSW, is a certified sex therapist specializing in individual, couples, and group psychotherapy for gay and straight clients. He’s the author of Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi? A Guide for Women Concerned about Their Men.

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410/510 – Working with the “Difficult” Male Client

How to Get Beyond Shame-o-phobia
DAVID WEXLER

Therapists often fail to create a user-friendly environment for reluctant male clients. The problem begins with a lack of awareness about how men fear having their shame and vulnerability exposed. This workshop will teach you about the mismatch between men’s relational style and the touchy-feely atmosphere of most counseling, and how to engage even “difficult” or “defensive” men and move them to the next level of intimacy and authenticity. You’ll learn to:

  • Recognize the defenses and perception of shame that keep men from confronting their emotions
  • Develop enhanced skills in building a therapeutic relationship with men based on straightforward guidance and “guy talk,” rather than ambiguous therapy-speak
  • Use specific techniques to counteract male relational dread and coach men to communicate in a related way
  • Help a man’s partner learn how to bring out his best qualities, without becoming codependent

Continued with workshop 510.

David Wexler, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and the executive director of the Relationship Training Institute. He’s the author of six books, including Men in Therapy and When Good Men Behave Badly.

Posted in All Day, Couples, Kids, and Families, Mind, Body, and Brain, Personal and Professional Development, Saturday Morning: 11 A.M. – 1 P.M., Saturday: 11 a.m. – 1 p.m. & 3 p.m. – 5 p.m., Uncategorized, workshops | Tagged , ,

524 – Working with Aging Men

Avoiding the “Grumpy Old Man” Trap
BARRY MCCARTHY

While 30 percent of men over 60 fall prey to depression, alcohol abuse, and sexual avoidance, the primary challenge of psychological, relational, and sexual health is typically one of misguided beliefs and expectations. In this workshop, you’ll learn an empathic approach to confront and change the attitudes and behaviors that keep many aging men stuck in a sense of loss, particularly when it comes to status, self-esteem, and sexuality. We’ll explore how to:

  • Empathically confront male clients who have fallen into the trap of becoming “grumpy old men”
  • Help aging men who have lost confidence in achieving erections recognize that sexuality involves sensual play and erotic touch, not only intercourse
  • Coach aging partners in how to turn to each other as intimate and erotic allies, as their vascular, neurological, and hormonal systems become more vulnerable

Barry McCarthy, PhD, ABPP, is a professor of psychology at American University, author of Sex Made Simple, Therapy with Men after Sixty, Sex Made Simple, Rekindling Desire, Sexual Awareness, and Men’s Sexual Health.

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