120 – The Secret World of Magic

Discovering the Power of Enchantment

Have you ever wanted to be able to keep other people spellbound? Here’s your chance. In this workshop, using everyday objects and easily assembled props, you’ll learn some of the secrets of practicing magic that have delighted children of all ages for thousands of years. The presenter, a magician and therapist, will discuss the principles of magic and explain how and why people willingly suspend their powers of observation and analysis in favor of enchantment. You’ll learn:

  • A series of mind-boggling magic effects for connecting with clients and young people
  • How to spice up lectures and entertain family and friends
  • The basic forms of misdirection and why they work
  • Why people react to magic in different ways

Jay Efran, Ph.D., is professor emeritus of psychology at Temple University and a member of the Society of American Magicians. He’s coauthor of Language, Structure and Change: Frameworks of Meaning in Psychotherapy and The Tao of Sobriety: Helping You Recover from Alcohol and Drug Addiction.

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201/301 – To Stay Or Go?

Working with the Mixed Agenda Couple

It’s not easy when a couple enters treatment unsure about whether to dissolve a marriage or try to save it—especially when each partner leans in a different direction. These “mixed agenda” couples present challenges for even the most skilled couples therapist, particularly since successful couples therapy usually depends on both partners being at least nominally invested in working on the relationship. This workshop will demonstrate an approach called Discernment Counseling that helps partners develop clarity and confidence about whether to divorce or work on their relationship in therapy. You’ll discover how to:

  • Identify mixed agenda couples and avoid common mistakes in treatment, such as siding with the distancer or holding back hope because one spouse is not “in”
  • Help both parties own their contributions to the marital problems and weigh the pros and cons of exiting the marriage or trying couples therapy
  • Develop a detailed protocol of joint and separate conversations with spouses to clarify each partner’s goals and focus on what they can learn from the crisis of divorce

Continued with workshop 301.

William Doherty, PhD, is a professor and director of the Minnesota Couples on the Brink Project at the University of Minnesota. His books include Take Back Your Marriage, Take Back Your Kids and Medical Family Therapy with Susan McDaniel and Jeri Hepworth.

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204/304 – Getting Through to Inner-City Youth

Discovering the Untapped Hero Within

Look into the troubled lives of many impoverished inner-city youth and you’ll often discover a walled-off history of unacknowledged loss. This workshop will broaden your understanding of how social context can breed traumatic injury and offers a fresh look at the importance of uncovering the buried impact of trauma in the lives of acting-out
youth. We’ll focus on how to:

  • Maintain an effective, empathic therapeutic alliance with kids who
    are nonresponsive, hostile, and even physically threatening
  • Develop a genogram-like Loss Diagram detailing the deaths of loved ones, serial placements in foster homes, and dislocations due to economic or family circumstances
  • Help clients discover and appreciate their positive traits and skills that helped them through tough times, which are the key resources they’ll need to move toward a better future

Continued with workshop 304.
Kenneth Hardy, PhD, is director of the Eikenberg Institute for Relationships
and professor of marriage and family
therapy at Drexel University.

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207/307 – Couples on the Brink

When Is Enough Enough?

We’ve all encountered couples for whom therapy is a last ditch attempt before calling it quits. But how do we, as therapists, decide whether to throw our weight behind the relationship or let it end? This session explores the impact our own values, childhood experiences, and old family roles have on how we help couples answer this momentous question. Through case histories and discussion, you’ll learn how to think about ways to proceed in the face of challenges such as when:

  • One partner is ambivalent about the relationship and clearly disengaged from therapy
  • Your own personal deal breakers, such as physical or psychological abuse, are part of the couple’s history
  • Addiction issues cloud the viability of the relationship’s future
  • The couple’s on the brink after betrayal or infidelity

Continued with workshop 307.

Terry Real, LICSW, is the author of the bestseller I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression and has been featured on numerous national news programs. He’s been in private practice for 30 years and is the founder of The Relational Life Institute, where he teaches therapist trainings and workshops for couples.

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208/308 – Lessons of Loss

A New Approach to Grief Work

Death doesn’t end a relationship. In this workshop, we’ll explore a new way of doing grief work that helps the bereaved person say goodbye to one aspect of the relationship with a departed loved one while learning to acknowledge a continuing bond and a different kind of ongoing connection. We’ll learn a variety of ways to help clients face the challenge of grief by discovering how to:

  • Identify factors that complicate the experience of grief, such as insecure attachments and invisible/divided loyalties
  • Use meaning-making strategies such as restorative retellings of the death and reviewing the life imprint of the deceased on the client’s own life
  • Introduce imagined dialogues with the loved one to reaffirm love and resolve residual grief

Continued with workshop 308.

Robert Neimeyer, PhD, has published 28 books, including Techniques of Grief Therapy. He’s a professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of Memphis and maintains an active clinical practice. He served as president of the Association for Death Education and Counseling, and as chair of the International Work Group for Death, Dying, & Bereavement.

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209/309 – Creating a New Reality in Couples Therapy

Breaking Free of Weekly Sessions

Everything we’re learning about the brain and the challenge of transforming deeply engrained emotional patterns tells us that the weekly appointment approach of traditional therapy is a limiting, highly flawed format. To help couples create new realities and move into a fuller experience of intimate connectedness, we need to provide opportunities for more immersive learning that fully engages the mind, body, and spirit of both partners. This workshop presents an intensive approach to helping couples transform their relationship. You’ll learn:

  • A step-by-step, experiential, multiday format that can provide a powerful boost to once-a-week therapy for guiding couples to explore a new style of connection and intimacy
  • How to expand mutual empathy by teaching partners how to “visit” each other’s emotional neighborhoods and better understand even the most painful places in their psyches
  • Strategies for guiding each partner to meet in a “main square” that they can mutually inhabit in emotional alignment with each other

Continued with workshop 309.

Hedy Schleifer, MA, LMHC, an internationally known couples therapist and clinical trainer, is the founder of the Tikkun Learning Center and the originator of Encounter-centered Couples Therapy (EcCT).

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211/311 – Harnessing the Power of Emotion in Families

An Introduction to Emotionally Focused Family Therapy

By zeroing in on the underlying attachment needs, Emotionally Focused Family Therapy (EFFT) offers a powerful, step-by-step process for transformational change. Learn how to help family members work through relational distress and past injuries to create new relational patterns for achieving deeper bonds and greater felt security. Whether you work with individuals, couples, or families, this training will show you how to create enactments in the consulting room that will deepen the impact of your work. In this workshop, we’ll:

  • Learn how to use the techniques and theoretical underpinning of EEFT to understand a family’s emotional dynamics, access attachment issues, and create new patterns of emotional healing
  • Recognize how protection patterns keep individuals from opening themselves to their vulnerability and block families’ natural ability to repair
  • Become familiar with the three-stage EFFT treatment process for achieving deeper connection, including how to create alliances with different family members, manage change events that access underlying vulnerabilities, and model positive new interaction patterns.

Continued with workshop 311.

George Faller, LMFT, is the founder of the New York Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy. He teaches at the Ackerman Institute for the Family and is the director of training at the Center for Hope and Renewal.

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213/313 – The Challenge of Treating Complex PTSD

What to Do When Things Get Messy and Uncomfortable


When working with trauma cases do you often see clients go into flight, fight, and/or freeze? Do they yell at you, insult you, or leave the session? Are there times you find yourself angry at your clients or just downright don’t like them? Do you recognize your own flight, fight, and/or freeze response? Welcome to the messy, often confusing world of trauma treatment. In this workshop, you’ll explore practical in-session techniques as well as a framework to help you recognize what’s happening when things heat up and get intense.

  • Focus on how to assess the client’s motivation, stage of change, and preferred mode of learning and how to build a therapeutic collaboration around it
  • Explore the importance of therapist transparency and how to empower clients by making the therapy process as safe and explicit as possible
  • Learn how to explore intra-family violence or include additional family members in your sessions

Continued with workshop 313.

Mary Jo Barrett, MSW, Executive Director and Founder, The Center for Contextual Change.  Creator of The Collaborative Change Model; A Meta Model for the Treatment of Complex Trauma.  Co-author of Treating Complex Trauma: A Relational Blueprint for Collaboration and Change.

Linda Stone Fish, MSW, PhD, the David B. Falk Endowed Professor of Marriage and Family Therapy at Syracuse University, is the author of Nurturing Queer Youth.

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222 – Empowering Anxious Children and their Parents

One Notch Outside the Comfort Zone

While cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) has been shown to effectively help as many as 80 percent of anxious kids, the exposure to perceived danger it requires is inherently counterintuitive for anxious kids and parents, who typically work hard to shield themselves from this very goal. So how can a therapist strike that delicate balance that fosters trust and safety while inspiring clients to nudge themselves one notch outside their comfort zones? In this workshop, we’ll explore the role of rapport, education, and empowerment in facilitating the client’s readiness for exposure-based CBT. You’ll discover:

  • The four steps for cultivating treatment readiness in different age groups: stabilization, communication, persuasion, and collaboration
  • Child-friendly applications of realistic thinking and gradual exposure techniques through case histories and role-playing exercises
  • How to help parents contain their own anxiety and keep it from exacerbating their child’s condition

Aureen Wagner, PhD, an anxiety treatment expert and international speaker, is the author of several books, including Up and Down the Worry Hill, Worried No More: Help and Hope for Anxious Children, and Treatment of OCD in Children & Adolescents: Professional’s Kit.

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228 – Addressing Attachment Issues with Traumatized Teens

Getting Hooked—and Unhooked

To work with troubled and traumatized adolescents, it’s crucial for therapists to first foster their own capacity for self-awareness and self-regulation. It’s not easy, though, especially when our young clients’ extreme reactions—ranging from angry arousal to frozen shutting down—can trigger our own sense of helplessness, failure, dissociation, and rejection. In this workshop, we’ll discuss how to use this nonfunctional cycle to get unhooked by:

  • Identifying specific adolescent attachment styles that interact with or trigger our own
  • Exploring the React, Reflect, and Respond model to best help our clients
  • Using The Four M’s—mirroring, mentalizing, mindfulness, and modulation—to increase connection and mood regulation
  • Focusing on attunement—including strategies of validation, self-disclosure, and the compassionate sharing of adult feelings and opinions—to bring traumatized teens back into relationship with themselves and you

Martha Straus, PhD, a professor in the Department of Clinical Psychology at Antioch University New England, is the author of No-Talk Therapy for Children and Adolescents and Adolescent Girls in Crisis: Intervention and Hope, and the forthcoming Developmental-Relational Interventions with Traumatized Teens: The Challenge of Attachment.

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318 – Healing From Infidelity

A Toolkit for Helping Clients

If you work with couples, you’re probably no stranger to the clinical challenge of helping them heal from infidelity. Using vivid video examples, this workshop will provide a comprehensive roadmap to the complex, zigzag nature of the road to recovery, where progress can be marked by setbacks from week to week and even within the therapeutic hour. Whatever your therapy model, you’ll learn:

  • Whether and how to discuss the details of the betrayal
  • Whether to give an ultimatum to end the affair
  • How to help partners begin to rebuild trust and address questions about ongoing dishonesty
  • How to coach couples through a structured yet flexible healing process

Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW, LCSW, is the director of The Divorce Busting Center in Boulder, Colorado, and author of several bestselling books, including The Sex-Starved WifeThe Sex-Starved Marriage, and Divorce Busting.

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320 – Promoting Positive Caregiving

Gratitude and Meaning in Caring for Aging Parents

While caring for aging parents is often portrayed as a physical, psychological, and financial burden, there’s a growing body of research suggesting that caregivers can derive important benefits from their role, including increased life satisfaction and even improved health. In fact, caregivers have the potential to get stronger as they gain the skills to provide care more effectively, even in the face of a loved one’s decline. This workshop will explore how therapists can enable caregivers to experience the growth potential in their caregiving mission by:

  • Clarifying clients’ sense of purpose in deciding to provide hands-on care
  • Normalizing ambivalence and frustration as they struggle to accept caregiving’s inherent self-sacrifices
  • Teaching intentional practices—including mindful awareness, present engagement, daily reflection, and prospective retrospection—to help them savor the meaning of their undertaking
  • Identify and nurture positive beliefs that will sustain caregiving, as opposed to negative thoughts that sap hope and sabotage the will to care

Barry Jacobs, PsyD, is the director of behavioral sciences for the Crozer-Keystone Family Medicine Residency Program and the author of The Emotional Survival Guide for Caregivers. He’s on the Caregiver Advisory Panel and writes a monthly column for AARP.

Julia Mayer, PsyD, is a clinical psychologist who’s specialized in women’s identity, caregiver, and relationship issues for over 20 years. She’s the author of A Fleeting State of Mind as well as columns for WebMD and HealthCentral.


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