How to Revive Erotic Passion
One out of every three couples struggles with mismatched sexual desire—a formula for marital disaster. When one spouse is sexually dissatisfied and the other is oblivious, unconcerned, or uncaring, sex isn’t the only casualty; a sense of emotional connection can also disappear. This workshop presents a collaborative model for partners to work together to turn around the decline in their sex lives and reignite their emotional connection. Learn the specifics of this model, including how to:
- Identify obstacles for each person to overcome or let go of, rather than blaming the low-interest sex partner alone
- End the vicious cycle of refusing or always asking for sex which leads to more anger, more refusal, and less desire
- Challenge the notion that sex is only about physical release and help clients understand how it’s also about connection
- Coach partners on how to express “the 5 love languages”: physical touch, physical presence, words of affirmation, active service, and material gifts
Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW, LCSW, is the director of the Divorce Busting Center in Colorado and author of several bestselling books, including The Sex-Starved Marriage and Divorce Busting.
Client-Empowering Skills for Emotional Regulation
ANN WEISER CORNELL
For the work of therapy to move forward, clients need some emotional regulation from the start. This workshop will offer interventions that help clients acknowledge, be with, and keep company with even their most intensely vulnerable states. We’ll explore how to help clients develop a more compassionate inner relationship with distressing thoughts and feelings. You’ll learn how to:
- Use language and techniques that support clients in being with extreme emotions instead of being flooded by them
- Give your clients “homework” in the form of emotional regulation practices to use in between sessions
- Strengthen your own calm presence with your clients even when you’re tired or feeling emotionally triggered
Ann Weiser Cornell, PhD, is a Focusing teacher and facilitator who’s been training clinicians in Focusing for more than 30 years. She’s the author of Focusing in Clinical Practice: The Essence of Change.
How to Stop Co-Compulsing with Your Clients
SALLY WINSTON & MARTIN SEIF
We’ve all had the experience of working with clients who get stuck as they talk in endless loops about their worries or preoccupations, continually returning to the distressed place they started. That’s because what’s really troubling the client is a subtle form of OCD that requires a different type of approach. In this workshop, you’ll learn how to identify and treat OCD masquerading as other issues by exploring:
- How therapy-as-usual, such as teaching coping skills or rational self-talk, can reinforce the subtle OCD symptoms
- How to shift the focus from how OCD symptoms originated or what they mean to the cognitive compulsions that maintain them
- How to implement effective therapy in which the goal is to change the
client’s relationship with his or her thoughts, not the thoughts themselves
Sally Winston, PsyD, cofounded and codirects the Anxiety and Stress Disorders Institute of Maryland. She’s the recipient of the Jerilyn Ross Award of the Anxiety and Depression Association of America and coauthor of What Every Therapist Needs to Know about Anxiety Disorders.
Martin Seif, PhD, ABPP, cofounded the Anxiety and Depression Association of America. He’s associate director of the Anxiety and Phobia Treatment Center at White Plains Hospital and coauthor of What Every Therapist Needs to Know about Anxiety Disorders.
Its Uses and Misuses
True or false: porn desensitizes people to genuine intimacy? Or wait, true or false: porn use is a normal, healthy expression of human sexuality? Porn is a confusing and polarizing topic that can easily trigger therapists’ negative counter-transference. But the fact is that people in the United States visit more porn sites each month than they do Amazon, Netflix, and Twitter combined. Critics of porn will tell us that all this just goes to show we’re living in a “porn-addicted” society, but we’re living in a “porn-phobic” one as well. As therapists, we’re on the front lines of helping clients address effects of porn on self-regulation and relationships. In this workshop, you’ll learn:
- How to assess for when porn is a problem and when it’s not, and avoid therapeutic potholes in the process
- How to handle your clients’ self-diagnosis of “porn addict” and work with them to explore the context and assumptions surrounding their self-assessment
- A CBT-based program for helping clients regulate their relationship to porn when it’s problematic
Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT, is a nationally recognized sex therapist and former writer of a weekly column for CNN Health. He’s also the author of She Comes First and Passionista.
Helping Couples Separate with Dignity
Divorce with dignity may sound like an oxymoron, but it’s possible. This workshop introduces an approach designed to teach partners to end their marriage with a sense of integrity and respect for another, rather than continuing conflict and bitterness. Learn to help clients reframe the “end” of the marriage as a “completion” rather than a “failure.” You’ll learn specific strategies to guide both partners through the three distinct phases of the Intentional Divorce:
- Crisis Phase — Help both partners determine if they’re ready for divorce and consider the legal, financial, and emotional consequences of adversarial litigation vs intentional negotiation
- Insight Phase — Allow each spouse to separate psychologically while mourning the loss of the marriage and prepare for their new roles with each other
- Vision Phase — Foster hope for the future by creating a divorce ritual to help them honor the marriage and let it go
Tammy Nelson, PhD, is a board-certified sexologist, certified Imago therapist, licensed professional counselor, and author of Getting the Sex You Want and The New Monogamy.
Overcoming Invisible Stigma
The key to working effectively with conduct-disordered clients is helping them transform overwhelming feelings of rage and helplessness into constructive action. This workshop will demonstrate approaches to addressing the roots of oppositional behavior—the internal sense of being worthless and irredeemable. We’ll explore ways of addressing the fears of social rejection and isolation that can sabotage clients’ everyday interactions with peers, family members, and employers by:
- Promoting prosocial thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that can help clients engage with others
- Coaching clients to create an internal foundation for believing they are worthy of friendship, love, and connection
- Teaching social skills for working collaboratively with others, using effective praise and gaining positive attention from others
Robert Hull, MA, ED, MHS, a career educator, special education administrator, and school psychologist in the Prince George’s County Public School system, is an expert in implementing evidence-based practice into strategies that lead to desired outcomes. He’s the co-editor of Supporting and Educating Traumatized Students.
Avoiding the “Grumpy Old Man” Trap
While 30 percent of men over 60 fall prey to depression, alcohol abuse, and sexual avoidance, the primary challenge of psychological, relational, and sexual health is typically one of misguided beliefs and expectations. In this workshop, you’ll learn an empathic approach to confront and change the attitudes and behaviors that keep many aging men stuck in a sense of loss, particularly when it comes to status, self-esteem, and sexuality. We’ll explore how to:
- Empathically confront male clients who have fallen into the trap of becoming “grumpy old men”
- Help aging men who have lost confidence in achieving erections recognize that sexuality involves sensual play and erotic touch, not only intercourse
- Coach aging partners in how to turn to each other as intimate and erotic allies, as their vascular, neurological, and hormonal systems become more vulnerable
Barry McCarthy, PhD, ABPP, is a professor of psychology at American University, author of Sex Made Simple, Therapy with Men after Sixty, Sex Made Simple, Rekindling Desire, Sexual Awareness, and Men’s Sexual Health.
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A Toolkit for Managers and Supervisors
New research has shown that working in environments where there’s regular and significant exposure to trauma stories from clients can increase the risk of staff burnout and distress. Managers and supervisors can play an essential role in mitigating these reactions and increase the resilience of their staff. Using cutting-edge findings on organizational health in mental health settings, this workshop will present key skills for managers and supervisors needed to build strong, resilient, and productive teams. Together, we’ll:
- Explore how to introduce reflective supervision, trauma-informed training, and grounding techniques to reduce counsellor impairment
- Discuss how to create communities of practice among staff to enhance the group’s ability to handle stress
- Learn how to identify key risk factors and how to implement trauma-informed management techniques to nest support staff
Françoise Mathieu, MEd, CCC, RP, is a psychotherapist and compassion fatigue specialist with over 20 years of experience in trauma and crisis intervention. She’s the coexecutive director of Tend ltd. and author of The Compassion Fatigue Workbook.
Avoiding the Mistakes Therapists Commonly Make
Although divorce and marriage rates are generally falling, they’re skyrocketing
among those over 50. That’s why so many of us are seeing an influx of
later-life uncouplers and recouplers in our offices. In this workshop, you’ll
learn how to effectively manage the competing needs of all the players in
these families: the new couple who wants a chance at happy intimacy,
adult children who may be less than pleased, stepparents who are longing
for acceptance, and parents caught between the people they love. We’ll explore:
- How adult children—especially adult daughters—struggle with parental breakups and recouplings
- How to shift the mindset of stepcouples from focusing on how to blend to supporting both parent–child relationships and their own developing partnership
- Common mistakes many therapists make, including giving precedence to the couple’s relationship above all else
Patricia Papernow, EdD, has worked as a trainer, consultant, and therapist with stepfamily relationships for more than 30 years. She’s the director of the Institute for Stepfamily Education and the author of the award-winning books Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships and Becoming a Stepfamily.
How the Digital World is Affecting Human Intimacy, Relationships, and Sexuality
When we talked about addictions in the past, we usually meant being hooked on substances, such as alcohol or drugs. Today, however, the instant access, affordability, and anonymity of the Internet has created an escalation of related relationship and sexual behavior problems ranging from teens viewing porn to sexting, hookup apps, and porn addiction. This workshop will provide a framework to help therapists understand how to assess for and examine nonoffending online sexual behavior problems. You’ll learn how to:
- Assess for the impact of intimacy disorders and sexual addiction on clients’ behavior and intimate relationships
- Understand how spouses and
partners can be affected by online compulsions and addictions
- Plan a treatment strategy for
managing nonoffending, compulsive behavioral disorders
- Find client and clinician resources for treating online addictions
Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S, is senior vice president of clinical development for Elements Behavioral Health. Speaker, clinician, and author of seven books on human intimacy and sexuality, he currently blogs for The Huffington Post, Psychology Today, and PsychCentral.com.
How Small and Frequent Can Be the Key to Achieving Balance
ASHLEY DAVIS BUSH
Most therapists pay lip service to the idea that self-care is important in guarding against compassion fatigue and burnout. But lack of time, energy, and resources often make self-care techniques feel like just another item to check off on a long to-do list. The solution: bring self-care into the office every day, throughout the day. In this workshop, you’ll learn six specific restorative exercises, including:
- How to punctuate the day with moments to clear your head and make space for yourself
- Physical movements designed to relieve stress and loosen up the body and mind
- Strategies to boost your energy during your work day
- How to reduce hyperarousal during a session with a client
- Ways to ground yourself at the end of the day before transitioning to home
Ashley Davis Bush, LICSW, is a psychotherapist in private practice with over 25 years of experience. She’s the author of 6 self-help books, including Simple Self-Care for Therapists.
The Key to a More Effective Web Site
As the Internet has revolutionized the therapy marketplace, it’s become increasingly critical for people to easily find you online. While the process of being search engine optimized might seem daunting, what it takes to get there might surprise you. This workshop highlights the concrete steps to leveraging the Internet. All participants must bring a laptop. You’ll learn how to:
- Drive traffic to your web site and make it more findable over many search phrases
- Position yourself as an expert in your field and an expert in your market
- Market to a huge database of potential clients without breaking the bank
- Ensure your online presence benchmarks favorably with local providers
Note: This workshop doesn’t qualify for continuing education for
Denise Marshall, business development manager at TherapySites.com, works with over 150 associations and organizations in the healthcare industry, helping them grow their practice and develop an effective online presence.
Attachment and the Dance of Sex: Integrating Couples and Sex Therapy
Until relatively recently, the very notion that concepts like romantic love and the longing for emotional closeness had any scientific basis raised eyebrows among the academic research establishment. Susan Johnson, the developer of Emotionally Focused therapy (EFT), has not only been a clinical pioneer in demonstrating how to bring an immediate experience of deep intimacy into troubled relationships, but has brought the rigor of empirical science to bear in establishing EFT’s effectiveness. As both a clinician and researcher, she’s established that it’s not an oxymoron to speak of the “science of love.”
In her keynote, Susan will show how attachment science offers a new understanding of sexuality and how the emotional sanctuary of committed relationships can help partners discover their distinctive sexual signature and lead to optimal lovemaking.