A Non-Pathologizing Approach to Out-of-Control Sexual Behavior
Rather than providing a pathway to healing, the sex addiction model too often contributes to clients being sexually lost and at odds with their own nature. Therapists are left with both being unable to help clients with their continued out-of-control sexual behaviors and also with the consequences of being the recipient of a pathologizing label. This workshop will educate therapists on having a sexual health and strength-based dialogue with their clients as an alternative to the sex addiction model. We’ll focus on:
- How to help clients develop a non-pathologizing understanding of their own individual sexuality and erotic identity
- A comprehensive assessment and alternative treatment that emphasizes the nonsexual meanings of sexual behaviors and fantasies
- Helping therapists explore their own countertransference with clients struggling with sexual behaviors the therapist experiences as problematic
- Differentiating normative male sexuality from out-of-control sexual behaviors around the use of porn, fetishes, and sex with partners
Joe Kort, PhD, LMSW, is a certified sex therapist specializing in individual, couples, and group psychotherapy for gay and straight clients. He’s the author of Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi? A Guide for Women Concerned about Their Men.
A Toolkit for Helping Clients
If you work with couples, you’re probably no stranger to the clinical challenge of helping them heal from infidelity. Using vivid video examples, this workshop will provide a comprehensive roadmap to the complex, zigzag nature of the road to recovery, where progress can be marked by setbacks from week to week and even within the therapeutic hour. Whatever your therapy model, you’ll learn:
- Whether and how to discuss the details of the betrayal
- Whether to give an ultimatum to end the affair
- How to help partners begin to rebuild trust and address questions about ongoing dishonesty
- How to coach couples through a structured yet flexible healing process
Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW, LCSW, is the director of The Divorce Busting Center in Boulder, Colorado, and author of several bestselling books, including The Sex-Starved Wife, The Sex-Starved Marriage, and Divorce Busting.
Gratitude and Meaning in Caring for Aging Parents
BARRY JACOBS & JULIA MAYER
While caring for aging parents is often portrayed as a physical, psychological, and financial burden, there’s a growing body of research suggesting that caregivers can derive important benefits from their role, including increased life satisfaction and even improved health. In fact, caregivers have the potential to get stronger as they gain the skills to provide care more effectively, even in the face of a loved one’s decline. This workshop will explore how therapists can enable caregivers to experience the growth potential in their caregiving mission by:
- Clarifying clients’ sense of purpose in deciding to provide hands-on care
- Normalizing ambivalence and frustration as they struggle to accept caregiving’s inherent self-sacrifices
- Teaching intentional practices—including mindful awareness, present engagement, daily reflection, and prospective retrospection—to help them savor the meaning of their undertaking
- Identify and nurture positive beliefs that will sustain caregiving, as opposed to negative thoughts that sap hope and sabotage the will to care
Barry Jacobs, PsyD, is the director of behavioral sciences for the Crozer-Keystone Family Medicine Residency Program and the author of The Emotional Survival Guide for Caregivers. He’s on the Caregiver Advisory Panel and writes a monthly column for AARP.
Julia Mayer, PsyD, is a clinical psychologist who’s specialized in women’s identity, caregiver, and relationship issues for over 20 years. She’s the author of A Fleeting State of Mind as well as columns for WebMD and HealthCentral.
Posted in Couples, Kids, and Families, Friday Afternoon: 3 P.M. – 5 P.M., Personal and Professional Development, workshops
Tagged Adolescents, Anxiety, Barry Jacobs, Depression, Families, Julia Mayer, Kids, Mindfulness
Finding New Ways to Connect
JENNIFER COHEN HARPER
Children struggling with anxiety, ADHD, sensory processing disorder, trauma, and other challenges often need more than talk therapy to heal and build resilience. They need to reconnect with their bodies, discover how to harness their inner resources, and develop a sense of their own strength and agency. This workshop offers an accessible process for meeting these needs using the powerful tools of yoga and mindfulness. Learn to:
- Share yoga and mindfulness practices in a developmentally appropriate manner to maximize embodiment and sense of agency
- Use a well-tested methodology based on five elements—Connect, Breathe, Move, Focus, Relax—to support self-awareness and self-regulation
- Practice and teach 10 powerful and versatile activities, even if you have no prior yoga or mindfulness experience
Jennifer Cohen Harper, MA, E-RYT, is founder and director of Little Flower Yoga, bringing yoga and mindfulness to schools nationwide, VP of the Yoga Service Council, and author of Little Flower Yoga for Kids: A Yoga and Mindfulness Program to Help Your Child Improve Attention and Emotional Balance.
Posted in Couples, Kids, and Families, Friday Afternoon: 3 P.M. – 5 P.M., Mind, Body, and Brain, workshops
Tagged Adolescents, Body, Expressive Arts, Families, Jennifer Cohen Harper, Kids, Mindfulness
A Trauma-Informed Approach
In the high-stress 21st-century world, parents increasingly complain of depression, psychic paralysis and sudden impulsivity, intrusive thoughts of failure, even harming their own children, and over time, losing a loving connection with them. Feeling out-of-control and inadequate as parents, they regularly experience small and large “t” trauma—a major unaddressed reason they often flounder in their efforts to provide guidance and support to their children and teens. In this workshop, you’ll learn how to:
- Help parents move from narratives of shame, blame, and failure to greater compassion toward themselves and their kids
- Use incident debriefing to redefine and move beyond distressing experiences involving vicious fights, near death acting-out, running away, and more
- Teach parents sensory exercises to help them self-soothe, think more calmly, and communicate more effectively before escalations
- Put parents in touch with dissociated self-parts (usually internalized versions of their own parents) that impulsively and destructively pop out when conflicts with their children escalate
Ron Taffel, PhD, chair of the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, is the author of eight professional and popular books and over 100 articles on therapy and family life.
How to Access Core Values
Outrage at a video of NFL running back Ray Rice punching his fiancée unconscious brought massive media attention to the problem of domestic violence. But the media focus on the importance of abusers being punished ignored the question of how to actually help them change their behavior. This workshop takes the position that abusers are most likely to change when they access their own deeper values concerning the kind of partner or parent they want to be. It will demonstrate an approach that emphasizes helping men practice alternative ways to express resentment and find more prosocial ways to experience themselves as powerful in their families. You’ll explore how to:
- Guide men to regularly practice incompatible response strategies as an alternative to abusing those around them
- Help men ally with the person they want to be and learn to feel compassion for themselves
- Help men use their own deepest values as a motivation for change
Steven Stosny, PhD, is the director of Compassion Power. He’s the author of Love without Hurt and coauthor of How to Improve Your Marriage without Talking about It. His most recent book is Living and Loving after Betrayal.
Posted in Couples, Kids, and Families, Friday Afternoon: 3 P.M. – 5 P.M., Personal and Professional Development, workshops
Tagged Adolescents, Challenging Clients and Treatment Populations, Couples, Families, Kids, Steven Stosny
Creating a Collaborative Couple Culture
Couples in therapy often struggle with too many issues and too little time. This workshop offers an approach to help clients design their own treatment plan by determining whether to work on making changes in the here and now, focus on healing from past wounds, or explore their family of origin. Clients are empowered by choosing the focus of treatment while also learning how to tolerate working on only one aspect of their relationship at a time. We’ll explore how to:
- Offer couples a variety of techniques to work on communication, behavior changes, problem-solving, or sexual intimacy they can apply to here-and-now issues at home
- Provide an amends and forgiveness protocol for resolving past wounds like infidelity, substance abuse, betrayal, and more
- Offer couples a family of origin perspective on how their dynamics were shaped by their childhood experiences
David Treadway, PhD, is a therapist and teacher who has been giving workshops and trainings for 40 years. He’s a long time contributor to Psychotherapy Networker magazine and the author of Home Before Dark: A Family Portrait of Cancer and Healing and three other books.
Closer Together, Farther Apart
In the 1960s, we experienced the Generation Gap. Today a Technology Gap exists between tech-novice therapists and their app- and device-savvy clients. This workshop will bring you up to speed on what you need to know about the myriad ways in which social and virtual media are changing the ways younger clients think, behave, and relate to others. Learn about:
- Sexuality and the web: an overview of the world of dating sites, hook-up sites, cybersex, and cyber porn
- Cyberbullying: a comprehensive survey of how the Internet can be used to humiliate and intimidate
- How to differentiate social media outlets: understanding their distinctive cultures and users
- How to distinguish normal from pathological immersion in the world of the web
Note: This workshop fulfills many state-board requirements for training in cultural competency.
Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S, is senior vice president of clinical development for Elements Behavioral Health. Speaker, clinician and author of seven books on human intimacy and sexuality, he currently blogs for The Huffington Post, Psychology Today, and PsychCentral.com.
Going beyond Masters and Johnson
Did you know that the clitoris has 18 different parts that each play a role in sexual function? Or that men regularly experience three different types of erections? Knowledge is power, and nowhere is that truer than in the practice of sex therapy at a time when the science of sexuality is expanding exponentially. In this workshop, you’ll learn how the latest advances in sexual science can guide your treatment planning and extend your therapeutic effectiveness with issues of desire, arousal, and orgasm. We’ll focus on how to:
- Connect with your clients around “hard to talk about” sex issues and build a therapeutic alliance that will encourage them to open up
- Assess for a range of presenting issues, including low desire, mismatched libido, premature ejaculation, erectile disorder, delayed ejaculation, among others
- Formulate a sex therapy case and develop a treatment plan that integrates insight-based psychotherapy, CBT, experiential exercises, and homework assignments
- Understand the latest research on issues like spontaneous vs. responsive desire, arousal noncordance, dual control model, and sexual fluidity.
Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT, is a nationally recognized sex therapist and former writer of a weekly column for CNN Health. He’s also the author of She Comes First and Passionista.
Embodying the Therapeutic Connection
The idea that the mind and body are inextricably intertwined is widely accepted in our field, but many therapists ignore pivotal information that can be gleaned from nonverbal cues such as body language, vocal tone, and facial expressions. It’s through these cues that the client’s “emotional body” speaks and can expand their capacity to experience connection, attunement, and intimacy. In this workshop, you’ll learn how to deepen your work by:
- Going beyond talk to access the wisdom of the right brain
- Helping clients make connections between their emotions and physical sensations as a way of regulating stress
- Learning a simple expressive arts process that includes mirroring your client’s key movements to deepen the therapeutic bond
Daniel Leven, MPC, RSMT, is founder and director of the Leven Institute for Expressive Movement and a faculty member at the Hartford Family Institute’s professional training program in In-Depth Body Psychotherapy.
An Innovative Approach to Preparing Girls for Adolescence
For decades, professionals have raised alarm about the difficulties girls face during their teen years. But we’re just starting to focus on the plight of tween girls, who face the same pressures and struggles, but at an earlier age. Immersed in an increasingly sexualized, cyber-saturated, and pressurized culture, they face challenges they aren’t physically or psychologically prepared to handle. This workshop offers an innovative approach based on our latest understanding of the neurological and psychological development of this age group. We’ll explore:
- Alternatives to traditional talk approaches that don’t work
- How to integrate rituals to deepen the clinical experience for the 21st century tween girl
- Specific methods for facilitating parent/tween workshops that address the problems of girls and their families during these years
Maria Fleshood, LPC, is a psychotherapist and relationship specialist who works with tweens in clinical and group settings. Her book, From Tweens to Teens: Preparing Girls for Adolescence, is forthcoming.
My Most Unforgettable Session: An Evening of Storytelling
Courtney Armstrong, Mary Jo Barrett, Margaret Nichols, Terry Real, Hedy Schleifer, Ron Taffel
Join six Master Therapists as they engage in the art of storytelling and
invite you into an evening of deep listening and authentic experience.
As in the acclaimed first-person storytelling program The Moth, each
therapist will recount a deeply felt, real-life experience that will inspire,
provoke, and enchant. The more you listen, the more you’ll feel like
you’re huddled around a campfire exchanging stories and sharing insights in an
experience of communal discovery.
Each therapist will reveal a tale from the heart about a session, a client, or a
therapeutic moment that stands out from all the others because it was . . . the most
meaningful? Surprising? Humbling? Explosive? Hilarious? Come and find out!
Whether told from the point of view of the therapist, client, or supervisor,
the story will be a no-holds barred revelation ranging the gamut of emotions of
empathy, fear, suffering, celebration, pain, intimacy, embarrassment, and wonder.
You’ll leave with a deepened sense of what it means at the core to be a therapist.