How to Get Beyond Shame-o-phobia
Therapists often fail to create a user-friendly environment for reluctant male clients. The problem begins with a lack of awareness about how men fear having their shame and vulnerability exposed. This workshop will teach you about the mismatch between men’s relational style and the touchy-feely atmosphere of most counseling, and how to engage even “difficult” or “defensive” men and move them to the next level of intimacy and authenticity. You’ll learn to:
- Recognize the defenses and perception of shame that keep men from confronting their emotions
- Develop enhanced skills in building a therapeutic relationship with men based on straightforward guidance and “guy talk,” rather than ambiguous therapy-speak
- Use specific techniques to counteract male relational dread and coach men to communicate in a related way
- Help a man’s partner learn how to bring out his best qualities, without becoming codependent
Continued with workshop 510.
David Wexler, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and the executive director of the Relationship Training Institute. He’s the author of six books, including Men in Therapy and When Good Men Behave Badly.