Couples, Kids, and Families

422 – How to Talk with Teenagers

Edgette, Janet Sasson 2016
Succeeding with Our Most Reluctant Clients
JANET SASSON EDGETTE

Most teens are only in therapy because their parents, their teachers, the juvenile court judge, or some other authority has told them they must see a therapist—or else. Consequently, they often find standard therapeutic bromides and shrink-wrapped attempts to “engage” them artificial, even infuriating. In this workshop, we’ll address the challenges of working with teens who burrow into silence, regularly express their contempt for therapy, provoke your anger or frustration, and accept your help only if they don’t have to admit they need it. You’ll learn how to:

  • Convey respect, compassion, and warmth toward your teen clients without coming off as unnaturally empathic
  • Call your teen clients out on their behavior without aggressively challenging or alienating them
  • Teach parents how to hold their teens accountable for their behavior without losing their connection with them

Janet Sasson Edgette, PsyD, is the author of Adolescent Therapy That Really Works and Stop Negotiating with Your Teen. Her latest book is The Last Boys Picked: Helping Boys Who Don’t Play Sports Survive Bullies and Boyhood.

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424 – Sex Made Simple

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Reigniting the Spark in Intimate Relationships
BARRY MCCARTHY

Sexual dysfunction and dissatisfaction is the most common mental health problem in the United States. But all too often when clients raise sexual problems in therapy, clinicians either skirt the issue by diverting the conversation to other personal and relational issues or reinforce the myth that a stand-alone medical intervention will cure them. This workshop will teach you to deal directly with your clients’ sexual issues, especially how to rekindle desire and help couples be intimate and erotic friends, whether they’re 27 or 77, straight or gay, married or not. You’ll explore how to:

  • Challenge “sexual poisons” such as the beliefs that all sex should be intimate and mutual and that using erotic fantasy during sex is a betrayal
  • Help couples embrace a Good-Enough Sex approach encompassing multiple roles, meanings, and outcomes
  • Explore with couples the different types, strengths, and drawbacks of a range of common sexual styles

Barry McCarthy, PhD, a professor of psychology at American University, is the author of Sex Made Simple, Therapy with Men After Sixty; Rekindling Desire; Discovering Your Couple Sexual Style; Enduring Desire: Your Guide to Lifelong Intimacy; and Sexual Awareness.

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425 – Improving School Performance

Nelson, Jody 2016
How to Enhance Therapist–Teacher Collaboration
JODY NELSON

Just as family and home environments can create and maintain mental health disorders, teachers and school environments can contribute to the various performance problems young people experience. This workshop targets two practitioner audiences—therapists already working in school-based or school-linked setting and office-based clinicians interested in collaborating more effectively with teachers and schools. In this workshop, you’ll learn several powerful techniques, including:

  • Treatment planning system approaches with common school problem such as noncompliance, attention difficulties, peer relationship struggles, emotional dysregulation, avoidance, and defiance
  • Processes and protocols to improve collaboration with schools and teachers, including drafts of MOUs, contract templates, student support team designs, and case coordination guidelines
  • Specific techniques teachers can use in the school setting to reinforce treatment goals, including strategies to work with resistance, provide choices, be a relationship coach, and create calm in the learning environment

Jody Nelson, EdD, LMFT, is chair of the Master of Arts in Mariage and Family Program, Argosy University/Twin Cities and associate director of Guadalupe Alternative Programs, a community-based organization.

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518 – The Sex-Starved Marriage

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How to Revive Erotic Passion
MICHELE WEINER-DAVIS

One out of every three couples struggles with mismatched sexual desire—a formula for marital disaster. When one spouse is sexually dissatisfied and the other is oblivious, unconcerned, or uncaring, sex isn’t the only casualty; a sense of emotional connection can also disappear. This workshop presents a collaborative model for partners to work together to turn around the decline in their sex lives and reignite their emotional connection. Learn the specifics of this model, including how to:

  • Identify obstacles for each person to overcome or let go of, rather than blaming the low-interest sex partner alone
  • End the vicious cycle of refusing or always asking for sex which leads to more anger, more refusal, and less desire
  • Challenge the notion that sex is only about physical release and help clients understand how it’s also about connection
  • Coach partners on how to express “the 5 love languages”: physical touch, physical presence, words of affirmation, active service, and material gifts

Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW, LCSW, is the director of the Divorce Busting Center in Colorado and author of several bestselling books, including The Sex-Starved Marriage and Divorce Busting.

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521 – New Perspectives on Porn

Kerner, Ian 2016
Its Uses and Misuses
IAN KERNER

True or false: porn desensitizes people to genuine intimacy? Or wait, true or false: porn use is a normal, healthy expression of human sexuality? Porn is a confusing and polarizing topic that can easily trigger therapists’ negative counter-transference. But the fact is that people in the United States visit more porn sites each month than they do Amazon, Netflix, and Twitter combined. Critics of porn will tell us that all this just goes to show we’re living in a “porn-addicted” society, but we’re living in a “porn-phobic” one as well. As therapists, we’re on the front lines of helping clients address effects of porn on self-regulation and relationships. In this workshop, you’ll learn:

  • How to assess for when porn is a problem and when it’s not, and avoid therapeutic potholes in the process
  • How to handle your clients’ self-diagnosis of “porn addict” and work with them to explore the context and assumptions surrounding their self-assessment
  • A CBT-based program for helping clients regulate their relationship to porn when it’s problematic

Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT, is a nationally recognized sex therapist and former writer of a weekly column for CNN Health. He’s also the author of She Comes First and Passionista.

 

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522 – The Intentional Divorce

Nelson, Tammy 2016
Helping Couples Separate with Dignity
TAMMY NELSON

Divorce with dignity may sound like an oxymoron, but it’s possible. This workshop introduces an approach designed to teach partners to end their marriage with a sense of integrity and respect for another, rather than continuing conflict and bitterness. Learn to help clients reframe the “end” of the marriage as a “completion” rather than a “failure.” You’ll learn specific strategies to guide both partners through the three distinct phases of the Intentional Divorce:

  • Crisis Phase — Help both partners determine if they’re ready for divorce and consider the legal, financial, and emotional consequences of adversarial litigation vs intentional negotiation
  • Insight Phase — Allow each spouse to separate psychologically while mourning the loss of the marriage and prepare for their new roles with each other
  • Vision Phase — Foster hope for the future by creating a divorce ritual to help them honor the marriage and let it go

Tammy Nelson, PhD, is a board-certified sexologist, certified Imago therapist, licensed professional counselor, and author of Getting the Sex You Want and The New Monogamy.

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523 – The Conduct-Disordered Client

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Overcoming Invisible Stigma
ROBERT HULL

The key to working effectively with conduct-disordered clients is helping them transform overwhelming feelings of rage and helplessness into constructive action. This workshop will demonstrate approaches to addressing the roots of oppositional behavior—the internal sense of being worthless and irredeemable. We’ll explore ways of addressing the fears of social rejection and isolation that can sabotage clients’ everyday interactions with peers, family members, and employers by:

  • Promoting prosocial thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that can help clients engage with others
  • Coaching clients to create an internal foundation for believing they are worthy of friendship, love, and connection
  • Teaching social skills for working collaboratively with others, using effective praise and gaining positive attention from others

Robert Hull, MA, ED, MHS, a career educator, special education administrator, and school psychologist in the Prince George’s County Public School system, is an expert in implementing evidence-based practice into strategies that lead to desired outcomes. He’s the co-editor of Supporting and Educating Traumatized Students.

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524 – Working with Aging Men

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Avoiding the “Grumpy Old Man” Trap
BARRY MCCARTHY

While 30 percent of men over 60 fall prey to depression, alcohol abuse, and sexual avoidance, the primary challenge of psychological, relational, and sexual health is typically one of misguided beliefs and expectations. In this workshop, you’ll learn an empathic approach to confront and change the attitudes and behaviors that keep many aging men stuck in a sense of loss, particularly when it comes to status, self-esteem, and sexuality. We’ll explore how to:

  • Empathically confront male clients who have fallen into the trap of becoming “grumpy old men”
  • Help aging men who have lost confidence in achieving erections recognize that sexuality involves sensual play and erotic touch, not only intercourse
  • Coach aging partners in how to turn to each other as intimate and erotic allies, as their vascular, neurological, and hormonal systems become more vulnerable

Barry McCarthy, PhD, ABPP, is a professor of psychology at American University, author of Sex Made Simple, Therapy with Men after Sixty, Sex Made Simple, Rekindling Desire, Sexual Awareness, and Men’s Sexual Health.

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526 – Uncoupling and Recoupling at Midlife and Beyond

Papernow, Patricia 2016
Avoiding the Mistakes Therapists Commonly Make
PATRICIA PAPERNOW

Although divorce and marriage rates are generally falling, they’re skyrocketing
among those over 50. That’s why so many of us are seeing an influx of
later-life uncouplers and recouplers in our offices. In this workshop, you’ll
learn how to effectively manage the competing needs of all the players in
these families: the new couple who wants a chance at happy intimacy,
adult children who may be less than pleased, stepparents who are longing
for acceptance, and parents caught between the people they love. We’ll explore:

  • How adult children—especially adult daughters—struggle with parental breakups and recouplings
  • How to shift the mindset of stepcouples from focusing on how to blend to supporting both parent–child relationships and their own developing partnership
  • Common mistakes many therapists make, including giving precedence to the couple’s relationship above all else

Patricia Papernow, EdD, has worked as a trainer, consultant, and therapist with stepfamily relationships for more than 30 years. She’s the director of the Institute for Stepfamily Education and the author of the award-winning books Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships and Becoming a Stepfamily.

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527 – Sex, Tech, and Addiction

Weiss, Robert 2016
How the Digital World is Affecting Human Intimacy, Relationships, and Sexuality
ROBERT WEISS

When we talked about addictions in the past, we usually meant being hooked on substances, such as alcohol or drugs. Today, however, the instant access, affordability, and anonymity of the Internet has created an escalation of related relationship and sexual behavior problems ranging from teens viewing porn to sexting, hookup apps, and porn addiction. This workshop will provide a framework to help therapists understand how to assess for and examine nonoffending online sexual behavior problems. You’ll learn how to:

  • Assess for the impact of intimacy disorders and sexual addiction on clients’ behavior and intimate relationships
  • Understand how spouses and
    partners can be affected by online compulsions and addictions
  • Plan a treatment strategy for
    managing nonoffending, compulsive behavioral disorders
  • Find client and clinician resources for treating online addictions

Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S, is senior vice president of clinical development for Elements Behavioral Health. Speaker, clinician, and author of seven books on human intimacy and sexuality, he currently blogs for The Huffington Post, Psychology Today, and PsychCentral.com.

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606 – Creating Secure Attachment in Couples Therapy

Rheem, Kathryn 2016
An Emotionally Focused Approach
KATHRYN RHEEM

Partners with a history of disordered attachment can be among the most challenging clients that couples therapists see. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) offers a clear road map for working with such unpredictable escalating couples by helping them access and share primary emotion. In this workshop, you’ll learn how to:

  • Use voice, reflection heightening, and validation to help partners share their deepest vulnerabilities
  • Reprocess key trauma experiences to create a new template for healthy attachment
  • Restructure couples’ negative patterns and stay in process when they become emotionally activated

Kathryn Rheem, EdD, LMFT, is an ICEEFT certified trainer, supervisor, and therapist. She’s the director of the Washington Baltimore Center for EFT and conducts EFT trainings internationally.

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608 – Treating the Traumatized Adolescent

D'Onofrio, Amelio 2016
How to Work with Rage, Terror, Shame, and Despair
AMELIO D’ONOFRIO

Trauma often results in the loss of secure attachment, especially for children and adolescents who’ve lost hope that others can be supportive, protective, and caring. As a result, traumatized youth often find it difficult to trust that a therapist has their best interests at heart, which can increase the likelihood of volatile treatment sessions. In this workshop, you’ll explore how to create the sense of secure attachment needed for effective treatment. Discover how to:

  • Create a safe therapeutic climate by establishing clear ground rules for treatment and how to best communicate those rules to clients
  • Follow the sequential steps in the mentalization process and separate the effects of our own unresolved traumas from the emotional storm states of our clients
  • Identify the transferential triggers of the client’s past traumatic relationships and how to repair the ruptures when they’re enacted in therapy

Amelio D’Onofrio, PhD, is clinical professor and director of the Psychological Services Institute at Fordham University. He is also founder of The Florence Seminars in Mental Health in Florence, Italy. He is the author of Adolescent Self-injury: A Comprehensive Guide for Counselors and Health Care Professionals.

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609 – The Challenges of Becoming a Stepfamily

Papernow, Patricia 2016
The Do’s and Don’ts
PATRICIA PAPERNOW

Although 42 percent of Americans have a close stepfamily relationship, many therapists still don’t appreciate the intense challenges of creating a new family organization. Parents and stepparents often find themselves in conflict over discipline, grappling with differences in family cultures, and tangling with ex-spouses. We see children overwhelmed with losses and loyalties who are struggling with all the changes in their lives. This workshop will explore three levels of interventions to address these challenges:

  • Psychoeducational interventions that offer proven information about what works and doesn’t work for surviving stress and building thriving relationships
  • Skill-building interventions that help clients learn how and when to say difficult things to each other
  • Intrapsychic interventions that explore how old family of origin issues can be triggered by the stresses of stepfamily life

Patricia Papernow, EdD, has worked as a trainer, consultant, and therapist with stepfamily relationships for more than 30 years. She’s the director of the Institute for Stepfamily Education and the author of the award-winning books Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships and Becoming a Stepfamily.

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613 – Engaging Teens on the Autism Spectrum

McDonough, Liz 2016
A Play-Based, Relational Approach
LIZ MCDONOUGH

Much of autism treatment today is dominated by behavioral approaches focused on teaching specific skills to young children. But by the time adolescence rolls around, even the most verbal kids on the autism spectrum are still isolated, plagued with anxiety, and prone to meltdowns. What if there was an approach that was dynamic, play-based, and relational to harness their strengths while building a fuller sense of personhood? This workshop offers a fresh perspective to help verbal teens with autism spectrum disorder develop a healthy sense of self and a desire for friendships. You’ll learn how to:

  • Expand your autistic clients’ “tunnel vision” and develop a lively therapeutic connection with them
  • Alleviate anxiety related to developmental conflicts using role-playing and somatic resourcing
  • Use drama games to build relational skills like social reciprocity, perspective-taking, empathy, and a sense of humor

Liz McDonough, MFT, RDT, is a drama therapist who specializes in working with preteens, teens, and young adults on the autism spectrum and their families. She’s an adjunct professor at The California Institute of Integral Studies and has taught in the Autism Certificate Program at Alliant University.

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