Exploring a New Way to Engage Your Male Clients
Therapists often struggle to find leverage in working with defensive or avoidant male clients reluctant to engage emotionally with their partners or in the therapy room. But while they resist deeper psychological inquiry, evoking the masculine virtue of integrity can help men develop a new vision of who they wish to be. Then from this place of integrity, they can become more focused on taking responsibility for their own behavior and why they act and react the way they do. We’ll explore how to:
- Help men internalize and organize behavior around the five attributes of integrity: honesty, vulnerability, guilt/remorse, listening, and direct expression of feelings
- Learn techniques to get men to embrace their vulnerability and acknowledge difficult-to-address issues, such as sexual intimidation, threatening behavior or passive withdrawal
- Practice drawing up specific action plans for men that will lead to their making amends to their partner while also restoring their own sense of dignity and integrity
Patrick Dougherty, MA, LP, a psychologist in private practice for more than 35 years and has been focusing on men’s issues for over three decades. He’s the author of Qigong in Psychotherapy: You Can Do So Much by Doing So Little and A Whole-Hearted Embrace: Finding Love at the Center of It All.